Part of what I try to do here on the blog is talk about the issues of motherhood that aren’t in the books…or the usual ones. I have tried that with graphic birth stories and even embarrassing posts about pinworms. I don’t really embarrass easily and if you know me in real life, I am willing to talk to you about anything. No joke. Anything.

This is one of those things I have filled the ears of many of my cohorts. Lately I talk about it more than having this baby. So here we go internets, lets get this out there:

To put it nicely, Landon’s arrival killed my pelvic floor.

To put it the way I usually do, I continually pee myself.

Yup. Sneezes scare me. Coughing fits are just plain horrible and I had to train my vajayjay just as much as my legs for a half marathon. I actually got better after that race. It was tolerable but then the minute Dolphin came into the picture, my muscles were like “FUCK YOU LADY” and have gone on strike.

Yes. It is embarrassing but there is only so much I can do at this point. So mostly, I just laugh at myself. I pack extra clothes all the time. I make it work.

But this post isn’t just to gross you out, it is to reach out to you others with this problem.  That’s the thing. I know I am not alone.  According to different reports I have read anywhere from 1 in 8 to 1 in 12 moms suffer from this in different degrees.  A lot of us hear it from the older generation that they have this problem.  Comes with motherhood.  Another one of those “awesome” merit badges you get for birthin babies. But ya see, it can be fixed and the vast majority of people I have talked to, have no idea. When I talk about this to people, it is a huge revelation.  They don’t have to spend a portion of their budget on Poise pads. HALLELUJAH!

There are various ways  to get it under control.  For some, it could just be more Kegels. But even with then, you have to keep them up for the rest of your life. And when you are 60 and can’t anymore? Coming back with a vengeance.  Others, like me, need a little more help. There are different surgical procedures to repair the damaged tissues. I had read about this when training last year and knew that once #2 got here, I would be getting it fixed.  I have already talked to my doctor and we are looking at 2 months post partum.  I am pretty excited to say the least. So for my readers, I have asked my OBGYN, Dr. Seidel of Physicians for Women in Cary, NC, to explain these.  Thanks Dr. S!

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Urethral Sling

A sling helps correct incontinence with mesh that supports the urethra. It is a minimally invasive procedure that basically helps your urethra rest on something to alleviate the peeing thang. There are many different types of slings and would be decided upon by you and your doctor. The procedure takes about an hour with local or general anesthesia which your doctor would decide. You go home after and full recovery is 4-6 weeks. Check out for more information.


A medical device, not unlike a diaphragm, to help tighten your junk up. This is a temporary or permanent solution. Can be placed by a doctor, midwife or nurse.

Retropubic suspension surgery

This is basically a facelift for your junk. It pins everything up using ligaments. It can be done with 1 large abdominal incision or laparoscopicly. This is pretty major surgery causing hospitalization and a catheter. Recovery is 4-6 weeks.

For a little more info from another OBGYN and fellow mommies, I found this great podcast from Pregtastic where they discuss this in detail with other moms speaking about their experiences.

So know your options. Talk to your doctor and make a plan. You don’t have to live in a constant state of worry that you can’t make it fast enough to the bathroom or have to give up high impact exercise. It isn’t a right of passage for being a mom…it is annoying as hell. Just a great thing it can be fixed.

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